WHO IS AT FAULT?
By Stuti Sachdeva
To be a parent is not an easy job. One has to go through various challenges. It is always said that the behavior, attitude, habits of a child are directly proportional to the parenting he/she receives.
But, it is not like so. It is a two-way process. Initially, a parent has to put in the efforts to groom a child but later or sooner it comes on the child too.
Moreover, when a child is born; the hurdles which parents have to go through are not limited to a fixed number. The hurdles graph goes on upside day by day. Fixing up their own time table as per the child’s convenience is again a difficult task. Leaving all their own wishes and thinking of how to fulfill the child’s dreams becomes a part of their life. These things may create disturbance in their physical relationships too.
At the same time, we cannot categorize parents to be good or bad. Being a parent is a hard job in itself. No parent wants to inculcate bad habits in a child. Somehow, situations differ and may force the person to do so. If a child has got some bad habits, we often blame the parenting he/she has received from his / her parents.
How can one judge a parent? Tell me, which parent will want his child to abuse the elders? It may happen that the child has learned the foul words from his / her friends. I think the parent, child; friends are interrelated to each other in one or the other manner.
Now, another aspect; when the atmosphere of the family is quite unwell due to several reasons. If a parent himself or herself uses wrong words or fight over trifles in front of the child. Then the child sets an image in his mind and may repeat the same with others.
Then what do you think; who is at fault? The parents, the parents of his parents or the child? Isn’t it a complex question?
To conclude, I would say, no doubt the parenting effects to some extent but it more or less depends upon the child that is what to intake and what not to.
So, this is a two-way process. The individual must realize that what is good for him what not. Because in the long run, no one is going to stay for a lifetime with you; one has to face life’s hardships alone.
